As adults, we want children to grow into responsible and functional people. For this reason, we raise them in the best way we know-how, guiding them in the direction that we know will lead them to success. We want to teach them values and habits that will help them in the future. It is known that one cannot really get far without putting in the work and practicing self-discipline. Self-discipline is a habit developed over time that enables a person to stay motivated and true to their cause no matter the distractions and obstacles that may arise.

Self-discipline is a desirable character trait that can be taught from early childhood. Having this trait can prevent a lot of the issues we may face in everyday life. Here are a few ways in which we can teach children how to be self-disciplined;

• Provide reasons for your instructions.

We give children instructions to guide them on how to act or speak. However, it is not enough to just tell a child what they can or cannot do without sufficient explanation. It is important to clearly give reasons why they should not do something in the most reasonable manner. The reasons could be the possible consequences of certain actions, or that doing something is not right, or even that there could be a reward if they refrained from doing whatever it is that they should not do. These reasons should be communicated in the most nurturing manner for them to learn and not to instill fear or any negative feelings. Proper communication also gives the child a better understanding of what is expected of them.

• Spell out reasonable consequences

Children need to understand that for everything that they do, there is a consequence. The aim is not to scare the child but to help them make better choices. Logical but simple explanations should be given. For example, if they stay up late, they will have a hard time getting up for school in the morning. This should teach them to watch their behavior and form habits that constitute self-discipline.

1. Be the perfect role model                                                                                                                           

Children oftentimes learn from what they see adults doing. It is not enough to just tell them what they should do. It is imperative to be the model for self-discipline. Have your priorities and stick to them, and the child will pick from your actions. Be aware of your shortcomings in self-discipline and work on them, hold yourself accountable, and communicate to the child about your struggles and efforts towards improvement. It is imperative that the child knows that there can be obstacles, and they can be subdued.

• Have a routine

Firstly, create and follow through with a clear schedule. If there are any activities to be done, make sure they are completed within the stipulated time. It may initially be a challenge, and you may have to constantly have to remind your child, but over time it becomes a habit, and eventually, you may need to give fewer reminders or none at all.

Habits are best formed in early childhood, and the sooner your child learns and develops self-discipline, the better it becomes for them.